by Surabhi Surendra
We all prefer to live by our own rules. These are often trial and error methods. We make mistakes, learn a lesson from them and avoid them in future. A wise way to live life is by learning from others’ mistakes. With eons of wisdom and experience, there are some golden rules that hold good for every one.
These are those few truths that have been proving their worth and success since ages. If these few lessons are learned by heart and life is lived by following these, I am sure you can experience a new birth.
Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth. –Thoreau
No decision is good or bad, it is the end result that matters. This is undoubtedly the best lesson I have learned in life. Like Shakespeare said, ‘alls well that ends well’. You do something different and you will be criticized but if the same decision turns out to be fruitful in the end, you will be applauded. There are countless examples where scientists, philosophers, writers and entrepreneurs were panned for their new thought, process and creation but when the same idea worked well, they were rewarded and revered.
So the point here is to first make a sensible decision and then stick to it. Defend it and work to make it successful. Stop pondering over why did you do something in the past or why did you take some decision. Pause for a while and decide to carve out a path from the same thing onwards. Whatever happened, has happened. Now excel in whatever you are doing and it will be alright.
90% of us have the same level of talent. It is the attitude that determines our altitude. It is very often that we attribute success of others to their talent or destiny. But the reality is that we all human beings have almost the same level of talent and capability. Just that we have different priorities and different aptitudes. And yeah! Different attitude. Our attitude determines the course of our life.
Do no ever feel you don’t have it in you. Instead say you will develop it in you. Take inspiration from legends. Work towards your goal. Quantify your goals and take the steps forward without wondering whether you have it in you or not.
Never think of problems, think of solutions. I have been through this in the initial years of my career. In those times, while working on the project, I used to think more about problems. I had a critical attitude. I was always ready to criticize my project. Though the reason was that I was utterly unhappy with my career at that point but if I look back now, I feel maybe I was unhappy because I never took the time out to appreciate the good things about my project. Agreed that my project had some problems but instead of finding solutions to those problems, I focused more on the problems themselves and thus I could not get anything useful from that experience.
I changed this mindset entirely after reading a lot online and working on my career and attitude and by figuring out what I actually liked. Thinking in terms of solutions helps us in becoming optimistic. It enhances our logical reasoning and improves our overall productivity. While being fixed at problems will only give us negative views and results in pessimistic behavior.
Honesty is always the best policy. This is probably the first maxim that we read as children but I doubt if all of us actually put it into practice. In todays world of cut throat competition and piling peer pressure, giving up honesty seems to be the easiest and the most convenient thing to do. But let me assure you that honesty always pays back in terms of rewards. You may not see them in short term but they are always there in the long term.
I remember my dad used to get frustrated seeing his colleagues taking bribes and living a luxurious life while he normally struggled to get all his ends met. But now after about 35 years of work, he now feels that his honesty in work and in life has paid him off very well. He feels happy that he is regarded as an honest man, has got reliable friends and that he has emerged as a stronger, happier and contented man, while his same colleagues are facing problems of unethical work practice charges and most of them are worried about their children’s misconduct.
The moral is if you are honest with life, your life will be honest with you and will not cheat on you!
Only keep the essentials, cut the unnecessary and you will achieve more. This is the most insightful lesson I have learnt from my husband. He is a man who firmly believes in ‘simple living, high thinking’. He never had a mobile phone even though he was working thousands of kilometres away from his family. After getting selected for India’s most reputed and highest civil services exam, he got a phone only on my insistence. He always considers phone as a major source of distraction. Contrary to his belief, I used to be addicted to my phone and internet. But now after being with him for 3 years, I also keep my phone on silent mode!
With silent phone, switched off TV, shut down laptop and a playful daughter, we are able to spend some wonderful moments together which was not the case earlier when these gadgets would keep running almost always. We must cut down the extra stuff from our life for better focus and attention.
This applies not only to gadgets but also to people. Cut down the extra, weighty strings of attachments form your life and focus that energy on the people you need the most. Throw away the things you don’t need and take extra good care of the things you depend upon. With better concentration, you will achieve better results. That is my guarantee.